"to love and be loved."
"to love and be loved."
You don’t go looking for friends to reach your goal — you look for followers.
A Friend is someone you acknowledge as your equal — with his own right to dream and form ambitions of his own. So a friend should be someone you consider free of your demands but rather only a life-line when you’re in need. Conversely, a friend is someone you’d willingly put your ambitions aside for until you’ve helped him stand on his own feet again. This is why you don’t go and look for friends in reaching your goals, because given that it’s wrong, you can never expect someone to go out of their own way just so they could do something for you. It is wrong to rely on them to take part of the responsibility of reaching Your goal when they have Their own to worry about. And practically burdensome for you is the fact that the more friends you find to rely on, the more backs you’ll also have to watch for and save when They need help. And when you’re trying to go somewhere fast, you’d always want to avoid unnecessary load to drag you down. A friend asks nothing in return — friendship only requires members to equally exchange kindness, compassion, and respect.
Followers are people you’ve touched whilst walking the path to your goal. Followers support and help you accomplish what needs to be done for you to get what you want to reach. Your dreams become their dreams, but Their goal is for You to reach your own. They become your arms and legs and will boost you to where you want to go. Like a friend, a follower is an ally, but someone who’d want to be part of your cause and see through every bit of your success. They see things through your eyes because your vision and view of things are what they apply in their own worlds. A follower must be rewarded with a part of your success. When you succeed, you must make sure to acknowledge that you’ve got to where you are because of the people who made sure that you do. Your success is their success, so it is requried that all of them involved in reaching your goal is having a taste of the fruits of your labour.
Then comes the Companion. They are the perfect people to be with. The reason is because this person is both a friend and a follower. In all respects he is a friend, but his dreams and goal are the same as yours, or at least the path to his goal is in line with yours. It wouldn’t matter if you two would choose to leave your way to help one another, because both of you would technically still be on the same path as where you left off. It only helps that you support one another because your views build one another’s vision of the goal. In this sense, it wouldn’t matter if this person follows you or if you yourself become the follower because you can be confident that the two of you are heading on the same direction on the same path anyway.
Unfortunately, companions are so rare to come by that it’s not worth the time searching for them. In reaching our goals, we are better off just looking for followers. Once you have your group of people running with you towards the future you want, who knows, a companion might come up above your crowd.
Who you end up with and the quality of that person and the relationship you two will have will DEPEND on how much you value yourself. Doesn’t matter if you’re not “smart” or financially rich — the laws of love don’t care, ‘cause it will all depend on how much you dignify your life. It will depend on how rigorous you are in finding what (not who) is right for you and how brave you are in admitting “this is not what I deserve” as well as your courage to let go of all that doesn’t serve you any purpose. I dare you say “this is where I’m happy” ‘cause if you are, then you don’t have any right to whine and be smothered with remorse — telling yourself you could have been greater.
Love is difficult because everyone has flaws. But the idea of a perfect relationship is not impossible. It happens when you’ve found that imperfect person inside of you and the imperfect person to be with, and yet you’re TRULY able to say…
“This is all I’ve ever dreamed love to be, Both of us are at our best and there’s nowhere we’d rather be.”
If, in the deepest recesses of your heart, you can’t find yourself to say such a thing, then gather strength and get ready to face an uncertain magnitude of trials.
Sure you might fail over and over again trying to find and be found by the right one. At least know that as long as you’re staying true and taking no bullshit, you’re living the happiest of every single measure of time you spend.
Making a worldly difference…
aryt, here’s a plan:
be nice, be a fucking martyr
love everyone and expect nothing in return.
touch their lives — even beyond a point where you realize you’re still not making any difference
suffer a mental breakdown, suffer their hate, suffer their criticisms, and suffer their fucking selfishness, embrace their stupidity and their lack of mental strength to fight their own unjustly urges and their closed minds that can’t fucking understand and accept that the solution to their problems only requires them to start dignifying their lives a little more.
the thing with us is that we learn so fucking slow unless one big catastrophe happens and we start realizing that the things we can lose are things that matter so much to us and how we are right now — like realizing there’s a pillar that’s been unknowingly built underneath us and should it collapse, we’d all be falling down to whatever bottom beneath.
I’ll be so fucking nice. Touch enough lives but touch them completely.
Then I’ll die.
I’ll be gone.
And maybe then i’ll make a difference.
Yeah. Maybe I’ll just die.